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May day is Happy day

Today's post will be a short short one.

Yea, it's my 19th Birthday! As usual, my wish is "I wish that all my wishes will come true". Haha, but it can't be considered as cheating right, it's still a wish afterall..

Just wanna say that I know that not many of the people read my blog posts and some might even fall asleep in the mist of reading those long posts. Nevertheless, I know that there are still one or two special ones who are constantly catching up with me on this blog. If you happen to be one of those special ones, a big thank you to you! :)

I've been quite busy with slacking and school work, so wait for my 'good quality' posts alright.. Alright, got to go! If May day is a public holiday in your country, enjoy it! And you can send letters to me via: jasmineclue@gmail.com

Nose bleeding

I love it when my nose bleeds. You might think that I'm crazy (yea, even my sister says that I'm insane), but I guess that's what makes me different compared to others.

The last time I experienced nose bleeding was in year 2008 when I was busy preparing for my 'O' level examinations. It was kind of exciting to see the blood dripping on to my Food And Nutrition textbook. The vibrant red coloured blood that eventually dried up to become a nasty dull brown colour. I've collected that few drops of blood using a cotton bud, and it's still in my drawer. Well, I'm just keeping it so that in the future I can let my kids or even grandkids to look at it.

During my childhood years, my nose used to bleed a lot. My nose could bleed once or twice a month and it made my mum feel worried. If you have been reading my blog, you would know that I used to visit my grandpa and my late grandma on every saturday. So, my mum told my grandparents about this issue and it got them worried too.

So... From that day onwards, I get to drink a bowl of herbal soup on every saturday's visit to my grandma's house. My late grandma specially bought it for me, hoping that the nose-bleeing thingy will get away soon. The soup doesn't taste nice, in fact it's just pure bitterness with one or two pork ribs in it. Nevertheless, I would always finish it. But, I've always wished that my nose keeps on bleeding as it is, but not to the extent that I would die instantly.

The purpose is not to make my loved ones worry, but to show that they care for me. I really enjoy it when my parents and grandparents take care of me. I love it when they place a wet towel on my forehead, give me many pieces of tissue papers when my nose bleeds. They would then instruct me to sit or lie down on the sofa, and I get to drink a glass of water after that. Yea, plain water filled with tons of love, care, concern, and attention.

Eventually, my nose stopped bleeding for a very very very long period of time. That's when I got a little disappointed as the level of care and attention decreased a little. Thinking of it, it should be a good news as my parents and grandparents won't worry about my condition that much. And.. This means that they're happy!

Yea, that's how it should be. Perhaps this should be the way:

"As long as you're happy, I shall stay happy too". That's happiness, once again. It's not hard to achieve, all you need to do is to make a positive change and just ensure that everyone is happy (that includes you as well). Live life with joy, cherish moments spent with your loved ones because you never know when death strikes you.

Busy busy busy

I've been quite busy with many stuff for this period so that explains why I don't have any new post for quite some time. I've thought of what to write and post about but I shall do it after I'm done with the stuff.

Leading a busy school life right now as I've slacked way too much. Now I find it hard to cope with school work, and I'm feeling a little stressed up. But, guess what? I'm still as happy as before as going through all these catching-up makes me feel like I'm a good kid.

They say, " 知足常乐". I contented with my life and for who I am, and it keeps me going.
So while waiting for the next post (which will be after a month).... Enjoy this clip.

                  

If you haven't been smiling or laughing for quite some time, I guess you're having a good laugh right now upon finishing the clip.

P.S: Merry Chinese New Year

4:01 pm, Friday afternoon

It's a Friday afternoon. A rainy day. The sky darkens, huge rain drops falling down from the grey coloured clouds. This reminds me of an afternoon visit to my grandma's house, all alone.

The usual way, I bought snacks for my grandma and grandpa. Their door is always open, so I could see grandma sitting in her chair, staring into the space. The next thing I did was to greet my grandpa as he's the one who opens the gate door for us. My grandma hadn't done it for a few years because her legs are weak and she needed someone to support her as she walks. Of course, that person is my handsome grandpa.

I entered their house (well, it's my second home as well) with a huge smile and greeted grandpa. Then, I walked towards my grandma and raised my voice to greet her as one of her ears is impaired. Her eyesight is not very good as well, so all she could see is blur images, I supposed. So, I would go near her face to greet her and at the same time, reach out my hand to catch hers.

My grandpa then ate the food that I've bought. While my grandpa is enjoying his food, I fed my grandma with her favourite dessert (I'm not sure whether it's her favourite, but she tells us that it's rather tasty). After finishing her food, she would thank me for doing so and I told her that she didn't need to thank me. I didn't tell her the reason why because I don't know how to translate it in Hokkien dialect. I wanted to tell her that I'm her grand daughter and it's my responsibility to take good care of her, do things for her to show my love for her, so there is no need to thank me at all.

After that, I sat on the sofa beside her. Wonder why I always do that? It's because I wanted to go near and just to let her know that I'm beside her, listening to the words and laughter that always come out from her throat and then mouth.

At first, I didn't really know what to tell her or ask her though I wanted to interact with her. Then, I realised that I don't need to come up with a specific topic. Hence, I just talked to her about that stuff that were in my mind. It did work, but sometimes she didn't reply me, which I think it's because she didn't hear what I was saying. And sometimes my grandpa would laugh at the stuff that I've told my grandma about. I wasn't really talking about funny stuff but I don't know, maybe it's because I looked funny when I interact with grandma haha.

When the surroundings start to darken, my grandma would ask me to go home because it's getting late. It's only around 6pm or so, but she's always worried about my safety. Such that, she's afraid that I might bump into some bad people who would attack me or something. She said something like "It's getting dark, go home quickly." So i assured that I would go home soon, but everytime I delayed by one or two hours before leaving their house.

When it was time to go home, she would reach out her hand again, for me to catch hers. I would always tell her "Grandma, I'll visit you again next week with my mum and siblings", followed by a smile like this:

                            

That sentence makes both my grandma and grandpa look forward to the weekends as that's when most of us, including my aunts, uncle and cousins would visit them. Also, that's when we interact with each other and bond together. This also brings us closer in a way. 

I'm still missing my grandma, and I know she's doing well in another dimension that's not far from us. We're going to visit grandpa later and I'm sure he will flash his huge smile the moment he sees us.

P.S: I started blogging this post on Friday at 4.01pm, but I stopped and could only complete it this afternoon.

                                                                     

Happiness is.. Staying happy for as long as you can

What do you see in this picture? Yes, a not-so-pleasant looking bedsheet (because of the creases or because you don't like its colour). To 'compensate' for the unpleasantness, a round ball with a smiley-face on it is placed in the middle, making the picture look pretty and not so dull.

Life's like this too. It is impossible to stay happy all the time especially where all of us are living in a competitive world that is filled with opportunities, but also endless cruelty.

In the aspect of sports, athletes are working hard and trying to grab hold of the gold medal. They can even feel upset and unhappy because of the tough trainings high expectations that they have in their mind. But.. Why? The answer is simple, that is, they want it to have the honour, to prove others wrong. In the working industry, this kind of situation occurs as well. For example, there is only one vacancy as a CEO in a company. And that vacancy is just like the one-and-only gold medal. Hence, everyone with high qualifications is snatching for it, no matter how tough the competition is. Everyone then gets stressed up. But.. Why? Because they want to earn loads of money for a luxury life and that they can get to reach the top (but not as if they can get to touch the sky).



Image obtained from: http://trueslant.com/johnknefel/files/2010/03/sad_face.jpg



But, do all these stiff competitions make you happy at the end of the day? I agree that there's nothing wrong with wanting to achieve your goals, however, sometimes people just tend to try too hard. And in those cases, they don't manage to get what they want, ending up feeling discouraged and upset. Also, some people tend to aim too high and have unrealistic dreams. If they insist on pursuing it and eventually it don't work out, they end up hurting themselves as well.

So, work within your limits and exceed a little if you want to challenge yourself. Don't overdo it as you would be putting unnecessary stress on yourself, which can pose bad effects and it won't make you happy.

What we need to achieve is to stay happy for as long as we can, and at the same time, try to achieve our goals and enjoying the process instead of forcing ourselves to accomplish it.

Life's short, so why make yourself miserable? Maximise the time on smiling instead of frowning.

New year's approaching like a rocket

In less than 24 hours, all of us will say goodbye to year 2010 and welcome the arrival of year 2011.

This blog is named as 'positive changes', so it's time to make positive changes which can change the way you appreciate things in life, and even make you a happier person after all. So.. What are some of the changes that can be made to make our world a better place to live in?


"Get rid of vulgarities and
stop those flow of rude comments
from coming out of your throat and then mouth".

This really should be done so that our environment and our mind are not polluted with all these nonsense which goes on and on as kids nowadays do it just because they think it's cool. If you think it's cool to do it, I'll post a challenge for you, that is, 'say it out loud to your teachers, principal, and police officers'. Once you realise how bad the outcome is, you wouldn't find it cool at all.


"Spending quality time 
with family, relatives and friends
who deserve to have your love and concern".

Time is precious and running out. In a day which consists of 24 hours, 5 to 8 hours would already be spent on sleeping. Besides that, time would be wasted on showering, exercising, doing assignments, taking afternoon naps and etc. So, the time left to spend with your loved ones is actually not enough at all especially when you are busy with school work and projects. Hence, in the coming year 2011, you should aim to maximise your available time by coming up with a plan or schedule. And most importantly, you should train yourself to have discipline so that you won't exceed the project deadlines and reduce the amount of time that can be spent with your loved ones.


"Adopt a positive thinking and mindset".

You should be optimistic and not be afraid to know the outcomes. You reap what you sow, therefore if you have already done a good job, then be rest assured that you will be rewarded with the outcome that you want. Think positively but it must be realistic as well, so that you will be a happier person. If you keep thinking negatively, you would be stuck in a situation whereby surrounding you are just dark and gloomy shadows. Of course, how can you be a happy person when exposed to such a harsh environment? You rule your own world, then why not make it a pleasant one? So, be confident and never be afraid to make mistakes.

There are so many positive changes that can be made to improve your life, but I can't possibly list all of them down here. However, you can read other posts of mine, to understand what can be done to make you a happier person.
Advanced merry new year to all.   

Third step to happiness: Spending quality time with your family

Nowadays, I am quite suprised when I hear people telling me how great their friends are, and how much they enjoy spending time with them.

I often hear all these, the sentences below:

- "I'm so gonna go out with my friends after the exams"
- "I love to spend time out with my friends, do you know how fun it is?"
- "I wish that I can spend more time with my friends, even if it's being together everyday!"
- "My friends understand me more than what my own family do"

So, what's the similarity between the above sentences? Well, it's obvious but if you still don't get it then it's the word 'FRIENDS'.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your friends, but nowadays people (especially youngsters) seems to be spending more quality time with their friends instead of family.

Let me explain it further. It's like, going home and spending more than 8 hours with the family [just sitting around, with no interactions and complete silence]
isn't enough and it isn't considered as quality time at all.

Your family has always been here with you since you were young, till now. They are the ones who understand you the most, care for you the most, and they give you everything you need which could be love and as well as some luxury items that you've always wanted.

But, why? Why aren't kids nowadays spending quality time with their family? Why aren't they talking to their family and caring for them? If you are unable to communicate or even, UNWILLING to do so, then I am very certain that you won't be able to know what true happiness is.

At home, you have a shelter over you. Whenever you get upset and frown, guess what? I'm sure your family would be one of the first few people to notice it. If they are unable to console you or calm you down verbally, then they will surely try to do other stuff which can cheer you up. An example would be preparing a nutritious meal, though it do not always taste nice.

While for friends, you don't stay together with them hence you try to spend the rest of the time organising outings just to spend time together during the day. Friends are unable to put in all their effort just to care for you and look after you for 24/7. They can't be the first few to look after you when you fall sick, while your family members are. This is because they have their own families to look after and spend time with, as well.

Till you know how to spend quality time with your family, you will then get to know what true happiness is and how to get it.

Second step to happiness: ''Forgive or forget''

Many people who come across the above title that I have typed, must have thought that it is a "typo error", and that it should be 'forgive AND forget'.

But, the truth is, not everyone can do it. In fact, it is extremely hard to forgive someone especially when he or she has inflicted the pain on you of such an intensity that it can never seemed to be eased.

So what I have figured out is, a better way to make ourselves happy. That is, you either choose to Forgive OR Forget.

Which one works better for you?

1. For those who choose to 'FORGIVE', most likely the issues are minor.
For example, when people start calling you names, you feel the anger inside as if you are going to explode at any time. However, after sometime you might just tell yourself that the person who did that is just an immature innocent kid, so it probably won't bother you anymore.

2. For those who choose to 'FORGET', most likely it involves major issues which have a negative impact on you. Since it has got to do with major issues, then I guess it is not possible to forgive. It's simply too hard. So what you need to do, is just to forget about it and carry on with the beautiful stuff in life. Look at what nature has to offer.

P.S: A good night's rest definitely helps a person to 'FORGET' all those unhappy happenings. So 'forgive or forget' or 'forgive and forget'? It's up to you to decide which method works best on you.

First step to happiness: Being thankful

I have come up with the three major steps to happiness. Here's the first one: Being thankful.

In our everyday life, even the smallest things can upset us. Such as losing a game of online reversi.

While for many of my friends, they often get upset over problems with school. Some have trouble dealing with their classmates or maintaining a good relationship with the whole class, while others are struggling with their schoolwork.

I experience that too! How do i deal with it?

The answer is simple, by being thankful.

The next time when you find yourself getting stressed up and unhappy due to the tons of assignments being thrown infront of you, think about those kids living in small villages with no access to clean water, fresh foods, and let alone books and classrooms.

When you are rushing for your assignments because the deadlines are approaching, what are those kids doing? Struggling to survive in the harsh conditions, helping out in the fields, praying that they get a chance to attend school and gain more knowledge.

When you have trouble dealing with your classmates, think of the kids again. Do they get to attend schools and even have classmates? They don't. They might have playmates, but definitely not have friends whom all of them can get together and gain some knowledege through attending classes.

Be thankful for what you have, is the key to happiness.